Tuesday, November 5, 2013

THE EXACT MOMENT YOU REALIZE THE PERSON YOU MARRIED IS A BETTER PERSON THAN YOU

It just happened.
Like, literally 30 seconds ago.

I mean, I had a sneaking suspicion all along this was the case but if any one moment in time confirmed it, it would be this one. I'm sure this isn't how Matt imagined being a "newlywed" would go.. nobody could foresee my healthy-as-a-horse dad having a heart attack less than a month after our wedding. But it happened. There's 2 ways you could choose to deal with that if you're Matt- be there for your spouse but eventually let your fatigue show, maybe complain a little or get short with your spouse (a.k.a. how I imagine I'd handle things).. or you can do what Matt actually has been doing.

Last night he drove to my parents with me at 7:30 while battling a wicked sore throat and a cold, and feeling like self-professed garbage, to clean out the fridge and set up my dad's room.

My moment happened today though.. He called me to let me know he's getting off work early to go to my parents, feeling worse than he did yesterday, in an impending snow storm, to hook up cable to my dad's room with my brother. He then said he'd wait for me to get off at 4:30 or so to unload and assemble a recliner we're loaning my dad, and then he offered to sit with my mom after all of that- so I can go to the hospital tonight to visit my dad for a little while.

He is more patient and more understanding and more compassionate than I could hope to be on my best day. Isn't that the type of person you're supposed to marry, anyway?

15 comments:

  1. so cute! can we clone him and give me the other him!?
    Prayers for your family! xo

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  2. That is so great that you have him by your side! I am sure it makes things a lot easier. And for real that is amazing of him. Pretty sure I would be whiny and crabby if that were me.

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  3. You got a good one, girl. I've always said about Jesse....I've done a hell of a lot wrong in my life. A lot. But marrying him made all the wrong things right again. Or at least made them worth it. Hope you're all adjusting as well as possible. We are sick over here too.

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  4. you and Lo both give me a little tear in my eye. So wonderful :)

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  5. Awww I love this!! I definitely married a way better person than I am, too!

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  6. Yay for amazing husbands. Sometimes you don't remember exactly HOW awesome they are until they are forced to be. That sounds mean, but I swear it wasn't intended to be.

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  7. What a man! That's why they call it your "better half" lol!

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  8. This makes my heart smile for you. I am so sorry for what you're going through right now, I know it's a lot. Thinking of you guys and sending warm wishes your way!

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  9. Good job M. You've got a good one! You and your family are in my thoughts.

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  10. life hands us a TON of little challenges, Good and Bad ones, and as a newly married couple- hearing how well you are BOTH doing with this seriously (without knowing M) tells me you are in it for the long haul, like FOREVA! [[warm fuzzies]]

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  11. What a sweet husband you have. Thinking of you girl

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  12. Yes. And KUDOS to both of you. Him for being there for you and your family in this time of need and for you for recognizing it all and acknowledging him for it. I think that's one of the biggest parts of marriage. You learn from each other and are better people because of each other.

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  13. Aww, how sweet of him! And I'm with you-- I realize all the time that my husband is a MUCH better person than I am!

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