tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post2250114046208623322..comments2024-03-02T02:30:23.335-08:00Comments on Kelly B, JD: MY TEN YEAR REUNION AND A LOT OF FEELINGS I DIDN'T KNOW I HAD.Kelly B.http://www.blogger.com/profile/04901696268627454070noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-65537466235227556092021-04-06T00:27:28.325-07:002021-04-06T00:27:28.325-07:00You have outdone yourself this time. It is probabl...You have outdone yourself this time. It is probably the best, most short step by step guide that I have ever seen. <a href="https://slotxo369.com/" rel="nofollow">สล็อต</a><br />abdul quddoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04841832833907550885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-92037449094874419192015-04-08T17:11:50.341-07:002015-04-08T17:11:50.341-07:00This post has been in my reader for weeks because ...This post has been in my reader for weeks because I felt too lazy to respond... but I felt myself really feeling like I needed to, because I am (ugh) going to my 10 year reunion this summer, and it's just... weird.<br /><br />Honestly, I think this will likely be the only reunion I go to - or at least for a long while. I have exactly 3 great friends from high school, and I see them as much as I can.... and that's about as far as I need it to go. I don't need to, like, avenge my former loser high school self, and I just really truly don't care. Yes, there are times I can stalk the shit out of some random person on facebook... but it's just filler. <br /><br />Blah. I just can't believe I'm 10 years out of high school. There are days when I still feel 21 and totally clueless.<br />Classy Fab Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00657528206098219881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-10943999313916731222015-03-31T08:10:16.000-07:002015-03-31T08:10:16.000-07:00Also, I still don't feel cool. At all.Also, I still don't feel cool. At all.Sarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06143301661837681057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-58375493652001348572015-03-31T08:09:46.553-07:002015-03-31T08:09:46.553-07:00Can I second this: "I often found (and still...Can I second this: <i> "I often found (and still find) myself wondering what I did wrong to go through 4 years of high school, and 4 years of college, the "best" years, with very little to show for it in terms of relationships."</i>?! <br /><br />My gosh. I am only good friends with a handful of people from high school, and almost even less from college. I have no girl friends (except a handful in Texas) with whom I can go out for happy hour and have a long talk over something hilarious we did in college, because it just doesn't happen. There's no Sex and the City group of ladies who have followed my dating antics in college, or even anybody from high school that I want to talk to on a regular basis (except for one woman who lives in southern WA and I haven't seen in years but we still talk). How do people make friends as adults?<br /><br />Regardless, my HS reunion was last summer but I was still in Texas, and I heard about it. The people that went to the bar night said that it was just like "reliving their college years" together, because everybody stayed here and went to college. Those that opted for the next day family picnic said it was lame because nobody had anything in common. Can't say I was sad I missed it, and can't say I even want to. Sarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06143301661837681057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-56044215452211499542015-03-28T06:18:14.476-07:002015-03-28T06:18:14.476-07:00As the other commenters above noted, you are certa...As the other commenters above noted, you are certainly not alone in your feels. I always had friends, but I was never quite "cool" enough. My parents couldn't afford to get me Vans or clothes from Aeropostale, so I frequently had to wear the fakes. Social suicide. I wish I couldn't say I didn't take great pride to see how some of the more popular people turned out in the end (ie- losers), but the older I get, the less I care. College was most definitely a more memorable, intergral part of my life. I know a lot of people who say they would love to go back to high school, and I can't think of anything worse. I didn't attend my 10 year reunion, and I can't say I was all that upset about missing it.MarlaJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08137272982165965923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-13216545054278984472015-03-26T09:14:55.345-07:002015-03-26T09:14:55.345-07:00You are not alone in your feelings. I had almost t...You are not alone in your feelings. I had almost the same experience as you did and sometimes I have a hard time accepting it and other times I realize it was meant to be. I too rarely talk to anyone from high school yet when I was actually IN high school had plenty of fun and friends and things to do. Then college came and I also only have ONE friend to show from it all. I blame most of it on the fact that I spent my first year in a long distance relationship (aka on the phone or Skype) and then moved in with said boyfriend the following year. But the thing that I've learned from it all is that the people who are currently my friends, from whatever stage of life they started, are meant to be. And everyone else was meant to cross into my life and then go another way. But sometimes even knowing that doesn't help with the "I want more friends" feelings. Jaymehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16844991440557520303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-54876128468422544722015-03-25T08:51:30.315-07:002015-03-25T08:51:30.315-07:00Some of this I don't identify with but this pa...Some of this I don't identify with but this part struck a chord with me - a big one: "I often found (and still find) myself wondering what I did wrong to go through 4 years of high school, and 4 years of college, the "best" years, with very little to show for it in terms of relationships."<br /><br />Like you, college was fine/fun, I got to do some cool things, really grow, travel, learn a lot about myself etc. Same for high school, I made some good memories, navigated the waters, had some neat experience. But I walked about with very few relationships that are strong today. I have a core group of 4-6 friends from high school that I see a few times a year and chat/email/text with regularly. We make an effort to keep up with each other. From college... I have 1. 1 person! Sometimes, I look back and wonder wth I was doing then and why didn't I come away from those 8 years with more relationships, more friends, etc. <br /><br />But, right now, I think it's because I sought out (probably subconsciously...) quality. People who really "got" me, who made it through the ups and downs, and people who (although this is rare in my small group) you don't speak with for 6 months but can immediately pick up where you left off, close as ever. I think I didn't "collect" any more because they didn't fit into my life and couldn't transcend time - from high school to now. And like you -- "I think subconsciously, being around those people and those memories brings me back to that version of me." Seeing people outside my small group - be it a reunion, on facebook, at bars when we're home visit, I feel myself slip back into who I was in high school, which isn't bad necessary, but just someone I don't identify with much anymore. I've taken the good parts of me from back then and moved on and it can just be uncomfortable to feel yourself get dragged back to that place. <br /><br />I think that's the key to all this, really. To acknowledge that's who you were back then, you did what you did and it's past, you've moved on, you've grown. You can't do anything but love you 15 year old self - flaws and all. Sure, maybe back then she wasn't who you wished you were... but you have an entire life time ahead of you to still become that person. :)Meg @ Mr.C and Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13456676076068670835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2792346563295917833.post-55568962214466849372015-03-25T06:04:54.669-07:002015-03-25T06:04:54.669-07:00Yes!! I have a post in my head that I can't qu...Yes!! I have a post in my head that I can't quite write yet about how middle school sucks, high school isn't much better, college was messy fun, but life is best after all those cliques. I'm from a small school so if there's a 10 year reunion and I don't have a really good friend's wedding that same day, I will be there. Also, while I may have been considered one of the popular kids (which was silly as there were under 100 of us and most of us went to preschool together) I had many moments of feeling left out. Recently I've reconnected with a friend from middle school/high school but it was through following each other on Facebook and instagram that helped us connect, and its taken over a year to get to where we now hang out regularly, but it is so good, we are in different places now than we were then, and who knows? Maybe a new friendship will come out of going, but if it doesn't feel right, that's okay too! katielookingforwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02739640153974439332noreply@blogger.com